Having expectations about how you want a relationship look and what it is supposed to be like is, in and of itself, a natural and healthy thing to do. However, all too often we have unrealistic relationship expectations based on the kind of rapport we witnessed between our parents. As a result we can run into the trap of expecting too much or expecting too little from our romantic relationships. Both of these extremes lead to continued disappointment with our relations. It takes some time, effort and attention to figure out what expectations you have and determine if they are actually getting in the way of you experiencing a highly satisfying relationship. It is something that everyone, who doesn’t currently have the relationship they deserve, needs to take the time and effort to do. Next, spring cleaning wouldn’t be complete without assessing those old, tired, unworkable patterns.

If you look hard enough, you can always find some patterns in who you choose to gravitate to for starting up a relationship. As you have heard me say before, these patterns say something about you. And, these patterns are obviously not getting you the results you want or you would not be hanging onto every word of this article right now. If you want different results you have got to take the time and effort required to identify your patterns so you can stop the endless cycle in and out of unproductive and ultimately unfulfilling relationships. Spring cleaning your love life offers you the chance to do this for yourself. A final piece of this process involves organizing and compiling a comprehensive list of your wants & needs.

Reach back into your mind and pull out some of those forgotten, overlooked and previously vaguely identified wants & needs. Put them down on a piece of paper and start your new spring list. This list is crucial if you ever hope to be able to recognize, when they are passing by, that person who can actually meet the needs on your list. You should ultimately be able to recite this list in your sleep. It is compiled through thoughtful insight and reflection on past relationships. More specifically, it is a natural by-product of self-awareness and your needs as the unique person that you are. It takes some time, effort and thought to get a comprehensive list together. Lastly, you need to make the decision to commit the energy and resources necessary to complete this spring cleaning and overhaul your love life.

Great things don’t just drop down from the sky. They take effort and energy for any real meaningful change. If you are not in the relationship you deserve then make the choice to do something about it. Relationship Coaching provides solid insight and advise, as well as the perfect venue to apply the energy necessary to make lasting changes in your love life. Spring represents a new awakening and offers an opportunity to experience “out with the old and in with the new”. Act upon the opportunity and you will feel much better about your love life.